Warm Fuzzies

With Christmas vacation (not HOLIDAY BREAK!) a day away, I am starting to feel warm and fuzzy.  Not necessarily about the kids or the family love, but just a general warm fuzzy happy feeling when I think about not working for a few days.  🙂  I also get happy when we have time to watch a movie.

One of the students was kind enough to bring one today, so after the work was done, we were all ready to sit and enjoy ourselves.  I must admit—I enjoyed How to Train Your Dragon 2 as much as any of the kids!  I want to see how it ends tomorrow!  For me, that’s as warm and fuzzy as it gets.

Snow Day!

How do you spend a snow day?  Some people go outside and make snow angels.  Others love to build igloos or snowmen.  My way to enjoy a snow day is to snuggle my puppies!  I call my dogs puppies because they are fifteen pounds or less, but they are adult dogs.  I went to my room to lounge for a bit, but my bed was already occupied.  I managed to wiggle in anyway, and the pictures tell the rest of the story.

She's always "got my back!"

She’s always “got my back!”

Jinx was keeping my legs warm.

Jinx was keeping my legs warm.

Chance is a champion napper.

Chance is a champion napper.

Boxi, Jinx and Chance know how to guard my bed!

Boxi, Jinx and Chance know how to guard my bed!

Bullying=Rite of Passage?

When parents are discussing bullying, you are likely to hear some (or all) of the following:
* It’s a rite of passage.
* I survived it, and it made me stronger.
* Kids will be kids.
* It’s normal in school.
* You can’t protect your kid from everything.
* There are bullies everywhere; kids have to learn to handle them.
* It’s not so bad.

Do you agree with any of those statements? I can see how parents can think that bullying is an unavoidable fact of life, but I disagree that bullying is “normal” or a “rite of passage.” My job as a parent is to teach my child to behave better than the bullies. It’s also my job to shield her and protect her from abuse. It helps that I am aggressive by nature. 🙂

Even as a kid in high school, I defended the underdog. Kids would pick on the ones who didn’t fit in and make fun of economically disadvantaged students, but when I saw it, I took a stand. It was not—and is not—funny. I’m not telling this to make you think I’m “better” than anyone else; I’m trying to let you know that one voice can make a difference. Especially if that voice is loud and persistent!

We are inundated by stories of bullying and teen suicide. Don’t you think it’s time we make our voices heard? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Bullying is neither acceptable nor normal. Shouldn’t we teach our kids that making fun of others is wrong? Isn’t there enough room on this planet for differences? Shouldn’t we make the bullies accountable for their destructive behavior? Shouldn’t they be the ones in counseling? Instead of doing “damage control” for the victims of bullying, shouldn’t some strong consequences be in place to stop it in the first place?

Some bullies, when confronted, make excuses and blame everyone else to avoid taking responsibility. We are told we should feel sorry for the bullies because:
* They come from broken homes.
* They can’t help it.
* His/her parents are alcoholics/drug addicts.
* They didn’t mean to do it!
* They were just playing around.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t buy any of those excuses. I may feel sory for unfortunate circumstances, but each person is responsible for his/her own actions no matter what. There are plenty of kids from broken homes who do not choose to abuse others. (I realize there are disorders that make control difficult, but there are treatments available.)
It’s time to accept responsibility, speak up for those who can’t and teach our children compassion.

Changes Are Coming

In spite of the weather outside (It just started sleeting!), I feel better today than I have in weeks. 🙂 I had enough motivation to visit Laura and her adorable bunch. It’s been a while since I felt like getting out of my jammies long enough to drive out there. Today Ysabela and I decided there was gas in the car, and we had the time and energy. We called ahead, gathered movies, dolls and hair pretties for the girls and went out. Laura is always full of cool ideas, so it was nice to be in good company. We discussed kids, school, homeschooling and life in general. She commented that I seemed happy. Honestly, I feel as if a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. In the last few weeks I have made some tough decisions, but I am at peace about them all. Changes are coming!

Bela took this of me with "my" two babies.  Laura did all the work!

Bela took this of me with “my” two babies. Laura did all the work!

I feel that the changes for my tiny family will be positive. I’ll be busy at work while Bela will be busy at home. We are both quite excited. With that happening, I need to keep the household running efficiently. If you have been keeping up with the blog, you know I have been cooking more lately, but now I would like to take our kitchen to the next level.

I am already thinking about how to cook meals in advance to keep things running smoothly. My friends post links on Facebook all the time about making meals and freezing extra portions. Maybe I could combine forces (and resources) with a friend or two and have a baking day so we could swap some meals for variety. I’ve spent a considerable amount of time brainstorming other ways to make and save more money. My dear friend, Lisa, sends coupons on a regular basis, and I am thrilled to use them! If you have other great ideas, please feel free to leave a comment!

Unexpected Compliment

I happened to talk to my friend Laura today. She had something interesting (and encouraging) to tell me. Last night was our town’s walkabout. Businesses set up freebies and items to buy, and the whole town turns out to check it all out. Santa greets children and adorable ponies pull a cart full of little ones. I usually make the rounds, but I stayed in this year. Ysabela went to have some fun.

Bela happened to bump into Laura’s mom. Laura wasn’t with her at the time, so Bela didn’t connect the two. They chatted for a bit, then Bela saw Laura’s daughters. Laura’s mom commented later that Bela was so respectful and nice. Laura passed that along to me, which thrilled my tired mommy heart. It was just what I needed to hear after a long, hard week. Laura’s mom went on to say that it was nice to see a teenager who was able to interact with both an unknown adult and small children. Most teens think they are “too cool” to play with little ones. (Laura, you are welcome to correct any errors and/or clarify as needed!)

That leads to me to huge point I would like to make: there is a difference between socializing and socialization. Socializing is just chatting with friends and hanging out. Kids do a lot of that at school. It can be positive or negative depending on the kids and the situation. Socialization is the ability to interact appropriately with people of all ages and walks of life in any situation. I am proud of my Ysabela because she is a sweet, generous, considerate teenager.

Scavenger Hunt?

I have been teasing my daughter about hiding her Christmas gifts in brilliant places—right under her nose.  It’s driving her nuts.  To me, that’s half the fun!  Next Friday I will arrange a scavenger hunt so she can discover one of her gifts.  She will be beyond thrilled.  I’m working on clues for her this weekend.  I’m not horribly bothered that she’ll be using her gift before Christmas.  It’s something she wants, and she’ll be busy and happy while I’m at work.  🙂

Quiet Christmas…and a Book!

School is winding down for Christmas vacation.  My students have been counting the days.  So have I, actually.  I can’t wait to come home and be able to stay home and do nothing!  I really am looking forward to just curling up with a good book and a blanket.  The dogs and cats will snuggle with me, of course.

All I really want for Christmas is some quiet time.  I quit putting up a tree years ago.  Ysabela is old enough to be fine with that.  Santa doesn’t come here, but she knows to ask me for things she wants.  That’s also fine.

I have found myself checking my classroom for neat books to read.  I was thinking of reading Como agua para chocolate again.  It’s a wonderful book I read in college.   This week in class, I assigned topics (people) for biographies.  One of my students was lucky enough (?) to have Laura Esquivel, so I shared some information about the book.  Once the student found a website with a summary of each chapter, she read the whole thing!  Did I get mad that she read an English summary?  No.  I was just super happy that she wanted to learn about the novel at all.  The recipes grabbed her attention, and she was a goner!  🙂  That’s the kind of book I want for Christmas!

Punchbowl Cake

1 box of yellow cake mix (no pudding!)
1 16-oz. bag of strawberries
1 large tub of cool whip
1 16-oz. can of crushed pineapple, drained
1 large box of vanilla pudding
1 bag of strawberry pie jell
cherries and/or shredded chocolate bar (topping)
punchbowl
Mix pie jell and strawberries, let set for 30 minutes. Make cake according to directions, let it cool. Prepare pudding as directed. Break cake in half, put one piece in the bottom of the punchbowl and cover with pudding. In layers, add half the can of pineapple, half the strawberry mixture and cool whip. Add cake and repeat. The bowl should be full. Top with cherries or a shredded chocolate bar.

Navidad…One Dish at a Time

Are you looking forward to “eating your way through” the Christmas holiday? Do you have any favorite Christmas meals? What about special desserts? I know I sure have some favorites! When I was a kid, my mom made chocolate-covered cherries from scratch. I remember counting the days until they had been in the closet three weeks; that’s how long it took for the syrup to form on the inside. I focus on chocolate, so another great dessert is what Mom called Martha Washington balls. (Here in Nebraska they are called elephant balls. It makes for some interesting conversations!) Basically, peanut butter balls are dipped in melted chocolate. Simply amazing! Don’t even get me started on the homemade eclairs! I lurked in the kitchen hoping to snag the first one. Punchbowl cake is another favorite of ours. In case you’re wondering about the cake, I’ll post the recipe in the next few days. It’s decorative and tasty!

A main meal treat when I was a kid was Aunt Ottie’s cordon bleu chicken. It is labor intense, however. Mom fixed spiral-cut ham with a mustard glaze that is to die for! There are so many “foodie” memories….I don’t know about you, but baked macaroni and cheese has always been one of my favorite comfort foods; Mom always cooked her noodles, put them in a baking dish and poured in a mixture of milk, flour (to thicken it) and sugar. Chicken in Mom’s barbecue sauce is a winner, too. Sorry if this is making you hungry….

Once we moved to Mexico, our family traditions changed a bit. Mom wasn’t close enough to cook for us, so we had to make do. Ysabela and I loved the tres leches cake. For those of you who have never heard of it, that means three milk cake. It’s what some call a “wet cake.”

In Seye (a small village outside of Merida), the neighbor’s family gathered to make tamales. I’m so glad they invited us over! Tamales quickly became one of my favorite dishes ever. An unexpected treat was what they called “sandwichon.” That means a big sandwich. Bread was sliced lengthwise, the crusts were cut off and layers of ham, cheese and sauce were added. There are recipes online for those who really want to know. I looked one up today to share with my students.

I guess the point is that no matter where you live, there’s always something to anticipate for the holidays. Maybe it’s a quiet meal at home with family and comfort food; maybe it’s a house full of extended family, friends and movies. Some people I know simply enjoy the time off from work and make no plans at all. Whatever your way is, enjoy it to the max!

The Chicken Chick

Meals To Go

Ysabela has eaten chili two days in a row!  It’s amazing because this is a kid who does not like leftovers.  She even added a few more beans to it.  I didn’t see that coming….

I am a bit ahead of the game for tomorrow.  I made us each a sandwich to take to school.  For me, that sandwich will keep crankiness at bay since I normally don’t  eat breakfast or lunch.  My plan is to have “breakfast” right after my first class since I have a break.  After all, that plan worked for me today.  I made some breakfast burritos last night and had two left over for today.  I am already planning much better!  🙂