Christmas for the Girls?

I saw a Facebook post this morning about the kidnapped Nigerian girls.  They have been gone for 255 days.  I can’t envision them opening presents today, can you?

My daughter and I have enjoyed our Christmas, but what about the families of those young girls?  How would I feel if one of those girls belonged in my family?  I’m sure I would have a major shift in priorities; wouldn’t you?  The missing school girls are not just Nigeria’s daughters; these daughters belong to the world.  I have followed the news stories, but there is no resolution.  I don’t know about you, but every time I think of these children, I cringe because I know what has probably been done to them.  As horrible as it is to contemplate, the “soldiers” of Boko Haram didn’t kidnap these daughters of ours for a stroll in the park.  Make no mistake—this kidnapping was an attack against women and decent people all over the world.  Don’t be deceived into believing the males of Boko Haram are real men either.  They are not!  Real men don’t prey on defenseless children.  Real men do not assault or threaten a female for any reason.  The Boko Haram is composed of cowards.

If I could make my voice heard, I would tell our captive daughters this:

Don’t give up!  Do whatever is necessary to survive.  People are still praying for you and awaiting your return.  You should feel no shame; the shame belongs to your captors.  They are cowards.  You, my daughters, are brave.

http://www.cbsnews.com/news/still-no-trace-of-200-kidnapped-girls-in-nigeria/

http://www.latimes.com/world/africa/la-fg-report-kidnapped-nigerian-girls-20141026-story.html

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2014/07/22/11-parents-nigeria-kidnapped-girls-die-from-attacks-and-stress-hometown-is/

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-11-02/boko-haram-leader-claims-kidnapped-girls-have-been-married-off/5860332

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-05-12/nigerian-girl-who-escaped-boko-haram-speaks-publicly-of-ordeal/5446168

http://www.abc.net.au/news/2011-11-06/what-is-nigeria27s-boko-haram3f/3637796

http://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/british/soft-target

http://allafrica.com/stories/201409250559.html

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/africa/2014/12/girl-says-father-gave-her-boko-haram-20141225162449466569.html

Learning Time is Any Time

How many fun, learning opportunities have you and your kids missed out on due to work and school schedules?  Are your children interested in things not commonly taught in a  school curriculum?  Do they want to do internships or apprenticeships to learn a trade?  Homeschooling may be the answer for you.

The first step is to check your state’s regulations.  If you like what you see, you can prepare yourself and your child(ren) to take the next step.  You will face challenges and negativity along the way, so be armed with research to back up your position when you take your child(ren) out of school.  Many well-meaning, intelligent people are not educated about the differences between socializing and socialization, just to name one issue.  If you have done your research and feel confident homeschooling is the best option for your family, stand firm.  Some will ask about “gaps” in your child’s education.  One way to make a point is to ask the concerned questioner what s/he remembers from school.  That should take care of that.

Children can learn anywhere.  Sitting around a table or at a desk with peers does not guarantee learning.  The first rule of learning is that the information must be meaningful to the student(s).  Since I teach Spanish, let me use that as an example.  Is it necessary for all students to speak Spanish?  No.  Do I think it is an important skill?  Of course!  Could it become meaningful to a student later?  Absolutely.  Many times schools set requirements that do not fit all students, but it’s done to make sure our students have a well-rounded education.  Fair enough, but all students will not find the information I have to share as important as I do.  They may not ever need to speak Spanish.  According to school requirements, however, they must pass the class if they wish to graduate.  What if a student wants to learn Arabic or French or any other language the school doesn’t offer?  As a homeschooled student, any foreign language could count toward graduation.  Schools are sometimes limited by funding and teachers, but a homeschooled student can find resources online or at a community college to fit interests and life goals.  In Nebraska, there are Lakota-speaking people.  It is even offered at the community college.  For my daughter, this is a meaningful class.  It will also be her third language!  She is already fluent in English and Spanish.  Using her as an example, would sitting in my Spanish class for a year be meaningful?  I don’t think so!

Now picture her as a homeschooled student.  She can learn a third language that is meaningful to her and relevant to where we live.  Most parents and teachers will agree that we want well-rounded, life-long learners.  Put that in plain language: we hope students will want to learn new things forever while having a broad base of information.  If students feel “trapped” in a classroom with peers they do not like, how are we planning to accomplish that goal?  Creativity doesn’t have to be sucked out of learning; it can still be fun.  Some of us have forgotten what it’s like to be creative and have fun while still providing opportunities to learn.  Homeschooling can do that!

Ideas for learning opportunities are everywhere.  Surround yourself with intelligent professionals who can teach you and your child new skills.  An internship of two weeks can teach more than a quarter in a class if the learner is motivated and the knowledge is meaningful.  I have a friend who owns a bakery, another raises goats and chickens.  Either friend could certainly impart information to my child.  Will I give them a chance?  You bet!  If my child shows an interest in something, I will seek a way to provide information!

I am trying to pay attention to my daughter’s passions.  She loves to sing and write songs.  I support that, so I bought her a guitar.  She was invited to a cosmetology school’s open house.  She was interested, so I took a day off to get her there.  Yesterday my daughter danced for an hour just because she wanted to.  If she dances several times a week, that certainly could be called physical education!  Good for her!  That’s the beginning of her homeschool journey.  I can’t wait to see how her passions develop now that she has the freedom to explore.  She is no longer limited by a school schedule.  Learning time for her is any time.

Learning time?

Learning time?

Oreo

Oreo is a fine equine family member.  I try to make sure she is well cared for.  I knew her hooves needed a trim, but finding a farrier who was available proved tricky.  Good news, though—we finally had her hooves trimmed today!  Willie was running ahead of schedule, so the job was done when we got there.  I was stressing because I was thinking he was running late, but he had been waiting on me!  That rarely happens because I am usually on time.

Oreo was thrilled to get some grain and loving.  As you can tell, she obviously hasn’t been hurting for groceries.

Oreo makes sure to get the last little bit of food.

Oreo makes sure to get the last little bit of food.

oreo2

That’s All, Folks!

Quitting time for this year (sounds awesome!) finally rolled around.  I was as happy as the students!  It sounds wonderful to say that we don’t go back until next year!  We were all ready for the break.

Now I am happily sitting at home in front of my computer eating some chocolate.  I am being watched intently by several cats and dogs.  (None for them!)  Criminal Minds is on, and I have a book at hand.  What joy I feel!  This is as warm and fuzzy as it gets for me.

Ysabela had a headache today, so she went home right before lunch.  She was able to complete her scavenger hunt for her first Christmas gift before she left.  I had her gift hidden in plain sight in the art room.  When I got home two hours later, she was strumming her new guitar.  Her headache had eased some, but it came back.  She ended up tucking her guitar away and taking a long nap.  The dogs were guarding her and keeping her warm, so I let them all rest.

The breaks from school are all about rest, at least to me.  It’s a time to slow down, unwind and refocus to get ready for what lies ahead.  Maybe teachers and students alike will be recharged for the second half of the school year.

Merry Christmas to all…….

Warm Fuzzies

With Christmas vacation (not HOLIDAY BREAK!) a day away, I am starting to feel warm and fuzzy.  Not necessarily about the kids or the family love, but just a general warm fuzzy happy feeling when I think about not working for a few days.  🙂  I also get happy when we have time to watch a movie.

One of the students was kind enough to bring one today, so after the work was done, we were all ready to sit and enjoy ourselves.  I must admit—I enjoyed How to Train Your Dragon 2 as much as any of the kids!  I want to see how it ends tomorrow!  For me, that’s as warm and fuzzy as it gets.

Snow Day!

How do you spend a snow day?  Some people go outside and make snow angels.  Others love to build igloos or snowmen.  My way to enjoy a snow day is to snuggle my puppies!  I call my dogs puppies because they are fifteen pounds or less, but they are adult dogs.  I went to my room to lounge for a bit, but my bed was already occupied.  I managed to wiggle in anyway, and the pictures tell the rest of the story.

She's always "got my back!"

She’s always “got my back!”

Jinx was keeping my legs warm.

Jinx was keeping my legs warm.

Chance is a champion napper.

Chance is a champion napper.

Boxi, Jinx and Chance know how to guard my bed!

Boxi, Jinx and Chance know how to guard my bed!

Bullying=Rite of Passage?

When parents are discussing bullying, you are likely to hear some (or all) of the following:
* It’s a rite of passage.
* I survived it, and it made me stronger.
* Kids will be kids.
* It’s normal in school.
* You can’t protect your kid from everything.
* There are bullies everywhere; kids have to learn to handle them.
* It’s not so bad.

Do you agree with any of those statements? I can see how parents can think that bullying is an unavoidable fact of life, but I disagree that bullying is “normal” or a “rite of passage.” My job as a parent is to teach my child to behave better than the bullies. It’s also my job to shield her and protect her from abuse. It helps that I am aggressive by nature. 🙂

Even as a kid in high school, I defended the underdog. Kids would pick on the ones who didn’t fit in and make fun of economically disadvantaged students, but when I saw it, I took a stand. It was not—and is not—funny. I’m not telling this to make you think I’m “better” than anyone else; I’m trying to let you know that one voice can make a difference. Especially if that voice is loud and persistent!

We are inundated by stories of bullying and teen suicide. Don’t you think it’s time we make our voices heard? ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Bullying is neither acceptable nor normal. Shouldn’t we teach our kids that making fun of others is wrong? Isn’t there enough room on this planet for differences? Shouldn’t we make the bullies accountable for their destructive behavior? Shouldn’t they be the ones in counseling? Instead of doing “damage control” for the victims of bullying, shouldn’t some strong consequences be in place to stop it in the first place?

Some bullies, when confronted, make excuses and blame everyone else to avoid taking responsibility. We are told we should feel sorry for the bullies because:
* They come from broken homes.
* They can’t help it.
* His/her parents are alcoholics/drug addicts.
* They didn’t mean to do it!
* They were just playing around.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t buy any of those excuses. I may feel sory for unfortunate circumstances, but each person is responsible for his/her own actions no matter what. There are plenty of kids from broken homes who do not choose to abuse others. (I realize there are disorders that make control difficult, but there are treatments available.)
It’s time to accept responsibility, speak up for those who can’t and teach our children compassion.

Changes Are Coming

In spite of the weather outside (It just started sleeting!), I feel better today than I have in weeks. 🙂 I had enough motivation to visit Laura and her adorable bunch. It’s been a while since I felt like getting out of my jammies long enough to drive out there. Today Ysabela and I decided there was gas in the car, and we had the time and energy. We called ahead, gathered movies, dolls and hair pretties for the girls and went out. Laura is always full of cool ideas, so it was nice to be in good company. We discussed kids, school, homeschooling and life in general. She commented that I seemed happy. Honestly, I feel as if a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. In the last few weeks I have made some tough decisions, but I am at peace about them all. Changes are coming!

Bela took this of me with "my" two babies.  Laura did all the work!

Bela took this of me with “my” two babies. Laura did all the work!

I feel that the changes for my tiny family will be positive. I’ll be busy at work while Bela will be busy at home. We are both quite excited. With that happening, I need to keep the household running efficiently. If you have been keeping up with the blog, you know I have been cooking more lately, but now I would like to take our kitchen to the next level.

I am already thinking about how to cook meals in advance to keep things running smoothly. My friends post links on Facebook all the time about making meals and freezing extra portions. Maybe I could combine forces (and resources) with a friend or two and have a baking day so we could swap some meals for variety. I’ve spent a considerable amount of time brainstorming other ways to make and save more money. My dear friend, Lisa, sends coupons on a regular basis, and I am thrilled to use them! If you have other great ideas, please feel free to leave a comment!

Unexpected Compliment

I happened to talk to my friend Laura today. She had something interesting (and encouraging) to tell me. Last night was our town’s walkabout. Businesses set up freebies and items to buy, and the whole town turns out to check it all out. Santa greets children and adorable ponies pull a cart full of little ones. I usually make the rounds, but I stayed in this year. Ysabela went to have some fun.

Bela happened to bump into Laura’s mom. Laura wasn’t with her at the time, so Bela didn’t connect the two. They chatted for a bit, then Bela saw Laura’s daughters. Laura’s mom commented later that Bela was so respectful and nice. Laura passed that along to me, which thrilled my tired mommy heart. It was just what I needed to hear after a long, hard week. Laura’s mom went on to say that it was nice to see a teenager who was able to interact with both an unknown adult and small children. Most teens think they are “too cool” to play with little ones. (Laura, you are welcome to correct any errors and/or clarify as needed!)

That leads to me to huge point I would like to make: there is a difference between socializing and socialization. Socializing is just chatting with friends and hanging out. Kids do a lot of that at school. It can be positive or negative depending on the kids and the situation. Socialization is the ability to interact appropriately with people of all ages and walks of life in any situation. I am proud of my Ysabela because she is a sweet, generous, considerate teenager.