Valentine’s Day

It’s really just another regular day.  Why wait until February 14th to show love and friendship?  Wait!  I remember—so the stores can sell flowers and gifts!  For businesses, it’s one more special day of sales.  It’s a bit like living like a devil all week and heading to church on Sunday.  You’re not fooling anyone!  There’s surely nothing wrong with buying a loved one flowers or a card, but one day a year means little compared to the other 364 days.

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When I had a valentine, we showed each other love every day.  It happened with the little things.  A kiss at breakfast, a phone call on break and chatting over coffee before bed.  We had love and respect every day.  How many couples can say that?

Sometimes I hear a woman refer to her partner in a derogatory way.  My take on that?  Well, honey, you chose to be with him!  I remember once in the store, this lady was nearly screaming at her husband in the baby aisle.  My man and I exchanged an incredulous look when we heard that.  The look we shared said it all.  We’d never treat each other that way because we had a foundation of friendship and respect underneath the love we shared.

Why not show your valentine love every day?  You don’t need a special day set aside for love and friendship.  You may be wondering why I add “friendship” to the mix.  In Mexico, Valentine’s Day is referred to as the Day of Love and Friendship (amor y amistad).  Adding friendship is better than forced affection and desperation for lack of a valentine, right?

Dance Etiquette

How many times have our kids heard us say, “Well, in my day X didn’t happen“? I am about to do it again. In my day, friends didn’t ask to dance with a friend’s date. (Girls in my school wouldn’t even consider pairing up with a boy in a lower grade (or two!) like they do nowadays, but that’s another story!) Times sure have changed!

I was taught that you dance with the one who brought you, your friend’s fellow was off-limits and there was a line between being friendly and being flirty. Are mothers not teaching daughters these things anymore? Am I being ridiculously old-fashioned? It feels like there are no boundaries too sacred to cross. If I had a friend who bluntly asked to dance with my date, I would have been so mad! I have seen it happen various times in the last few years. The girls today ask the guy if he’ll save her a dance, but shouldn’t they clear that with their gal pal first? Respect, please!